大衆の神のエレジー！

1、每一天，重新托付你自己善待这一天全新的你。如果你不善待自己，还有谁会善待你呢？

Every day,recommit yourself to being good  to the new person you are that day.If you are not for yourslf, who will be?

new：早上醒来好好妆扮自己，以靓丽的自我迎接新的一天。

2、在你沮丧气馁时，要知道沮丧是由悲伤和愤怒的情绪带来的。找出令你悲伤或愤怒的原因，然后，对症下药。

When you"re depressed,know that depression is made up of sad and angry feelings.Identify what"s making you sad or angry so you can act on those feelings.

act：不要一个人生闷气，采取行动，走出阴霾。

3、当世界天寒地冻、充满敌意、枯燥乏味时，回归内心宁静的家园。

When the world seems cold,hostile,and uninviting,go to a peaceful place inside you.

peaceful：大隐隐于市，以内心的宁静抵挡外界的喧嚷。

4、如果你觉得身陷凡俗，不能自拔，试着画画、做做梦，或是写下充满创意的见解。知道自己还可以拥有其他的选择，就可以帮助你走出困境。

When you feel trapped,try drawing,dreaming,or writing about some creative options.Just knowing you have alternatives will help.

options：山穷水尽疑无路，柳暗花明又一村。不要拿自己的头去撞墙。

5、如果你必须做一件让自己烦心焦虑的事情——例如演讲或者对抗某人——闭上眼睛，深呼吸，然后放松。想象自己镇定而自信地展开行动。

When you have to do something that makes you anxious——like giving a speech or confronthing someone——close your eyes,breathe deeply,and relax.Then imagine acting with calm and quiet confidence.

relax：放松心情，舒展身躯，抚平脸上的焦虑，天下没有过不去的难关。

6、主意倾听别人对你的批评，仔细分辨他们是在提供对你有用的信息，还是暴露自己内心的恐惧与匮乏，然后采取正确的行动。

When others criticize you,listen carefully,Determine whether they"re giving you ureful information or speaking from their own fears and neediness.Act accordingly.

criticize：批评与苛责的冷箭攻克不了内心坚实的城堡，但是要小心阿谀谄媚的罗网。

7、如果你没有获得应有的荣誉，大声地争取，虽然你的每一分贡献不一定要得到认可。奖赏自己最好的方式是，改正自己重大的疏失。

When you don"t get the credit you deserve,speak up,Although every contribution you make need not be acknowledged,you honor your own worth by correcting a significant oversight.

correct：认错、补过正是你尽责的表现，好老板会欣赏这样的部下。

8、如果你无法让别人了解你的观点，试着去了解他们的观点，或许你所说的和他们知道的并不一致。互相了解总得有一方主动。

When you can"t get others to understand your point of view,try to understand theirs,Maybe what you"re saying and what they"re hearing are not the same.Understanding can begin from either side.

understanding：许多言词上的争执，可能只是定义不同的问题，不必争得面红耳赤，退一步海阔天空。

9、如果你觉得自己是个失败者，去做一件你拿手的事情：缝纫或编织，也可以除除草，放放风筝，去解开一个字谜。

When you feel like a failure,do something you"re good at：sew or knit,weed the garden,fly a kite,finish a crossword puzzle.

failure：谁都有跌倒的时候，爬起来，拍拍屁股，继续向前行。

10、犯了错就尽力去补过。如果连累了别人，向他道歉，在情况合宜时，补偿她。想想学到的教训，然后将错误抛诸脑后。

When you make a mistake,do what you can to correct it.If another person has been affected,apologize and,when appropriate,make amends.Think about what your"re learned,then let it go.

mistake：人是从错误中学习的，你应该牢记于心的是教训，而非错误本身。

11、如果你要用折磨自己的方式来鞭策自己，停止吧！除了让自己难过、不舒服之外，这个方法是行不通的。你应该反其道而行之，提醒自己你所拥有的力量和才干。

If you"re trying to motivate yourself by harassing-yourself,stop.It doesn"t work;it just makes you feel bad.Instead,remind yourself of your strengths and abilities.

remind：用正向积极地思考取代负面思考，你的潜能才能充分发挥。

12、当你忙不过来时，别浪费精力去担忧那些未完成的事。分出事情的先后次序，同时为自己完成的事鼓鼓掌。

When you have too much to do,don"t drain your energy by worrying about all that"s unfinished.Set priorities and give yourself credit for what you accomplish.

priorities：事有轻重缓急，别慌别忙，即使今天没完碗，明天太阳依旧会升起。

13、如果你觉得乏味无聊时，列出一张你喜欢做的事的清单，再加上一直梦想去做的事。然后各选一样，就去做吧！

When you"re bored.make a list of things you like to do.Double the list with things you"ve dreamed of doing.Then do one thing from each category.

dream：梦想并非遥不可及，鼓起勇气去追求。

14、当你等待已失去耐心时，把这段等待的时间当作是上苍馈赠的礼物。你可以细细品味期待的滋味，以及当时的体验。

When you"re impatient for something to happen,consider the time of waiting as a gift.Use it to savor the anticipation and experience the present moment.

anticipation：想象的滋味往往胜过得到的滋味，延长期盼的时间就是延长快乐。

15、发现自己不可理喻时，找个理由告退吧！去散散步或者躲到另一个房间。试着理清自己的情绪，看看是否找到出办法，重新开始。

When you realize you"re being unreasonable,excuse yourself.Take a walk or go to another room.Try to sort out what you"re feeling.Then see if you can begin again.

excuse：成功的人找方法，失败的人找理由。不过有时我们需要一些托辞，以便重整旗鼓。

16、如果你感受到有来自自身要求“改进”的压力，或者你总是告诉自己“应该”如何如何，问问自己到底怎么了。你真的忠实于自己的需求吗？还是只是复述别人的期望？

When you feel pressure from youself to "improve"or when you"re telling yourself that you "should"do something,ask yourself what"s really going on.Are you being true to your own needs or are you repeating other"s expectations?

true：你的身体会忠实地反映你的心情，你的心理是否也真实地反映了你的内在需求？

17、如果发现自己的工作得太辛苦或者太久时，想想看，真的有此必要吗？你是否在逃避某些情感呢——悲伤、愤怒、伤痛或者恐惧？

When you find yourself working too hard or too long,consider whether it"s really necessary.There may be some feelings--sad,angry,hurt,scared--that you"re trying to avoid.

feelings：正视自己的感情，夜深人静时，不要只顾着工作，与自我对话。

18、如果有人需要你的关注，而你无法回应时，安心地说“不”。你可以再保有自己界限的同时，也去关怀别人。说“不”也可以是满怀情爱的回应。

When someone wants your attention and you don"t feel you can respond at that moment,it"s OK to say no,You can be caring while maintaining your own limits "NO"may be a loving response.

attention：不要把自己当成机器人，别人一按钮，自己就得行动。

19、如果别人对你期待过高，告诉他们你力所能及的事情。然后共同寻找方法，满足他们其他的需求。

When others expect too much from you,talk about it.Tell them what you can do.Then problem--solve together to determine how they can get their other needs met.

together：集思广益，不要把所有事情都揽于一身。

20、如果你对别人的照顾不能恰如其分，或者过度了，或许你是希望得到别人的眷顾。把这份精力用于思考如何满足自己的需求。

When you want to take care of someone else in an inappropriate or excessive way,you probably want to be taken care of yourself,Use that energy to figure out how to meet your own needs.

take care：将别人伺候成大老爷，自己就沦为奴隶了，这岂不成了大傻瓜？

21、如果你常常忧心忡忡，正视这样的感觉，这是在提醒你眼前的威胁——无论是真实的或想像的，都值得你关注。

When you"re apprehensive,respect that feeling.It"s telling you of a threat --real or imagined.That deserves your attention.

apprehensive：不要让自己的心情整天坐在诊疗台上，烂牙早该拔除了。

22、如果你感到恐惧却又无法扭转情势时，想像一道保护你的白光包围着你，什么也伤害不了你；当然，你也可以将这道白光“传送”给别人。

When you"re feeling scared and can"t change the situation,imagine a white,protective light surrounding your body and keeping you safe from harm.You can "send"this light to others too.

protective：放大胆走吧，阿福在保佑你呢！

23、如果你有所失，允许自己悲伤。不要禁锢自己的情感，尽可以悲伤、愤怒，甚至哭泣。不要让别人告诉你，你所失去的微不足道，或是该停止悲伤了。

When you experience a loss,let yourself grieve.Don"t shut down your feelings;be sad and angry and cry if you want.And don"t let anyone tell you that your loss is no important or that you should be over it already.

grieve：悲伤也是一种力量，但是不能沉溺其中。

24、如果你感觉空虚，那就去体验那份空洞的感觉：悲哀、伤痛与寂寞。然后用美好的感觉来填补空虚：你的成就、贡献， 以及别人对你的爱。

When you feel empty,allow a space for experiencing whatever is there:sadness,hurt,loneliness.Then fill up by remembering good feelings:the things you"ve accomplished,the contributions you"ve made,the ways people have loved you.

empty：心空了，才能让美好的事物进来。

25、如果你必须去做不想做的事情，给与自己温柔与同情。当事情是正确的就去做吧！然后以特殊、简单的方式奖赏自己一番。

When you have to do something you don"t want to,be gentle and sympathetic with yourself,If it"s the right thing to do,do it—then reward yourself in a special and simple way.

reward：走累了就歇歇脚，懂得呵护自己才能走更远的路。

26、如果你发窘了，说出来。发窘是人性，你不必隐瞒事实。

When you"re embarrassed ,say so.Being embarrassed is human;you don"t have to hide that fact.

embarrassed：人生有许多难堪发窘的时刻，就当是娱乐别人的招数吧！

27、如果别人想要让你感觉到内疚，弄清对方真正的想法，看是否真的是你的责任。

When others are trying to make you feel guily,identify what it is they really want and whether it"s appropriate for you to meet that need.

guilty：罪恶感不是好东西，赶快将它放逐吧。

28、如果你的愤怒在当下的情绪被放大了或许是陈年往事在作祟。想想你过去有这种感觉是什么时候，当时你的感觉是不是被忽视了，或者是不被承认？现在，该坦诚面对那些情绪了。

When your anger seems too big for the situation,it"s probably about something old.Consider when you felt this way before and whether your feelings were ignored or unrecognized then.Acknowledge those feelings now.

anger：不要积压怒气，它一定会找出口的；与其忍到火山爆发，不如让自己常常冒些烟。

29、当别人恶言相向时，离开现场。缺乏善意与尊重，不会带来好结果。

When someone calls you names,leave the situation.There is not enough good will and rspect to produce a good outcome.

leave：懂得抽身而退是莫大的智慧，不要让情况恶化到两人再也无法见面。

30、如果你对一个人生气，又不能跟他说明白——因为他不能承受，或是找不到他的下落，甚至他已经死了，写封信给他（只是给自己看的），说出你所有的感受。

If you"re angry with someone with whom you can"t talk it through--because that person isn"t safe or can"t be located or has died--write a letter to that person (just for yourself)saying all the things you feel.

write：不能说的就用写的，然后付之一炬。

31、如果你焦虑不安，而且浑身不对劲，改变一下日常生活方式。起早一点或睡晚一点，重新布置客厅，每天开始散步。

When you"re restless and disscontent,change your routine.Get up earlier or later,rearrange the living room,start walking every day.

change：生活需要变化，每天给自己一点惊喜。

32、如果你对别人有所要求，让他们知道。即便是你先开口提出的，也不会因此减损他们付出的价值。别人对你的爱，并不是靠他们读懂你的心来证明的。

When you want something from others,let them know,What they give you won"t be less valuable if you have to ask. Their love isn"t proven by their ability to read your mind.

ask：直接开口省了大家许多麻烦，何必遮遮掩掩徒生闷气。

33、当你暴躁易怒时，做自己的好朋友，花一点时间独处。试着不要把人生看的太严肃，找一些乐子玩玩。

When you"re irrtable,be your own friend.Take some time alone.And try taking life less seriously by doing something playful and lighthearted.

lighthearted：人生并非不可承受之重，让自己的心轻盈飞舞。

34、如果别人的成功令你沉默、不安或是变得吹毛求疵，检视自己背后的动机，别人的成功并不会遮蔽你的光芒，你的人生不是一场和他人的竞赛。

If someone"s success makes you silent, uneasy,or critical,examine what"s behind your reaction.You are not diminished when others succeed.Your life is not a competition with them.

examine：时时观照自己的内心，不要让恶念生根、滋长。

35、如果你的梦想破灭了，把这些碎片扫起来藏好。碎梦的残屑中可以找到发亮的希望。

If your dreams fall apart,sweep up the pieces and save them.Slivers of hope can be found in the debris of shattered dreams.

hope：以破灭的梦想为土壤，栽种希望的花朵，人生是永不止息的追求。